Here’s the disclaimer to ensure you read until the end: NOT ALL PARENTS INVALIDATE ADOPTEES After spending a few years in various adoption groups online, a common theme in all is: adoptees being silenced and written off for being “disrespectful and argumentative”. When I see those comments, I scratch my head. Looking at the comment … More Is it Disrespect or just Disagreement?
Why am I writing this and not just ignoring the haters? Because I know about all the adoptees feeling alone and watching advocates being gaslighted when sharing their experiences. When you relate to someone sharing, and you see them being attacked for it, that automatically puts some fear into your mind that it’ll happen to … More Triggers are Valid
Today was supposed to be a happy day. Just like it was supposed to be the best day of my life exactly one year ago. Instead of a wedding, I was blindsided and handed a broken engagement. Two days after my would-be-wedding, I was given a re-examination of my doctoral qualifying exams and was terrified … More I Was Supposed to Be Celebrating
Hi, everyone! You probably found me due to the latest news regarding an adoption influencer and re-homing her son. I wanted to give another update and also welcome you to the channel. I share A LOT about my adoption story and hope that adoptees may find validation and support through my videos. It’s an added … More MY ADOPTION STORY | NEW SUBS AND INFLUENCER UPDATE | CHAT TIME
Re: https://www.insider.com/myka-stauffer-youtube-instagram-backlash-for-rehoming-special-needs-son-2020-5?amp&fbclid=IwAR3mJuSen6FViWaB8-XZcPgju1p4lcTtZkrDL3r4-PmfUvP-V2CAxOcGbZM Warning: You can read the article, but please reconsider watching their videos. Every click gives their monetized videos more ad money. Almost 3 years ago when I began the adoptee advocacy journey on YouTube, this channel kept getting suggested to me. We even commented on one or two of each other’s videos when … More Profiting from family separation and trauma is WRONG.
Moving can be stressful for ANYONE. Adoptees may have a harder time due to trauma and stress from adoption. Of course, they may not also! I have always had a hard time when moving. It was anxiety-ridden and I wanted it over with ASAP. In this video, I share a little bit about what I … More MY ADOPTION STORY Pt. 66 | Anxiety when Moving Out
As my channel has slowly changed, I realized now would be a great time to update you all on my personal growth. After chatting with a friend, I realized that I really have grown up and I hope you have enjoyed watching that transformation through my episodes. It’s taken a lot to get to where … More MY ADOPTION STORY BONUS EPISODE | I’ve Grown Up
The days have been the same in quarantine. I haven’t written on here in quite a while because there hasn’t been anything to update. I rebranded to include part of my Chinese name. AdopteeLilly was a great place to start, but I am much more than just an adoptee. LillyFei allows me to show my … More Mid-May Update
It’s really important we stay connected and continue showing each other support even while practicing social distancing. Comments are open below for you to share when you are available and if there is a specific topic you are interested in. Check out the short video below for more information!
UPDATE: SEE LATEST VIDEO AT BOTTOM OF THE PAGE For those who follow my advocacy here, I posted a video with some major updates on life. For stuff like this, filming is definitely easier than writing. Check it out below: Like the blog? Leave a comment, like, share! Instagram and Twitter: Adoption Advocacy: Books: