Children See Color

There is a video going around showing that kids are not color blind (embedded below). They see race. Transracial adoptees have been aware of this. I didn’t need to be told I was different from my adoptive parents. I saw race. I just didn’t know what it was. I witnessed this firsthand last weekend. The … More Children See Color

Cafes and Culture

Happy Saturday, everyone! I am one lucky woman and have zero plans for the day. My only plans are to spend the day immersed in really good books and hopefully getting another chapter or two written in my latest novel. Minor Update: Yes, I am still loving Scrivener and will likely be purchasing it to … More Cafes and Culture

Advocacy Update !!!

For the last few months, I’ve been evaluating my time investment when it comes to advocacy. Sadly, with my PhD progressing and side projects in the works, making even just monthly videos is no longer sustainable. Behind the scenes, I spend my time answering questions and sharing parts of myself with people through DMs… all … More Advocacy Update !!!

What's Invalidation?

Trigger Warning: Racist language used against Asians (used in a quote said to me) Invalidation comes in all forms. I experience it most often when my graphics and posts get shared and exposed to people who have never confronted complexities with adoption and race. “Won’t discredit her feelings, but I fear she’s had different experiences … More What's Invalidation?

Adopted kids grow up to be (outspoken) adult adoptees.

I’m not here to provide loopholes. I’m not spending my time answering questions that are so obviously used to gain permission to continue unhealthy behavior. I am not an enabler. I will have genuine conversations with you that challenge your beliefs. I may play devil’s advocate to force you into considering unknown perspectives. I’ll call … More Adopted kids grow up to be (outspoken) adult adoptees.