Yes, I recognize this entire situation is complicated. Yes, I realize people need to work to live. Vacations and parties are not excusable in my book. It’s been four months of quarantining, social distancing, and wearing a mask. And yet when I go on social media, my feeds are flooded with acquaintances traveling, visiting friends … More Mask Musings
Why am I writing this and not just ignoring the haters? Because I know about all the adoptees feeling alone and watching advocates being gaslighted when sharing their experiences. When you relate to someone sharing, and you see them being attacked for it, that automatically puts some fear into your mind that it’ll happen to … More Triggers are Valid
Today was supposed to be a happy day. Just like it was supposed to be the best day of my life exactly one year ago. Instead of a wedding, I was blindsided and handed a broken engagement. Two days after my would-be-wedding, I was given a re-examination of my doctoral qualifying exams and was terrified … More I Was Supposed to Be Celebrating
It’s really important we stay connected and continue showing each other support even while practicing social distancing. Comments are open below for you to share when you are available and if there is a specific topic you are interested in. Check out the short video below for more information!
If you’ve been following my advocacy and not just my book reviews, then you know I share a lot of myself when talking about adoption. I share both old and new experiences in an effort to make other transracial adoptees feel less alone. I carefully curate what I share. Often, I share everything and then … More My Social Media Boundaries
For the last few months, I’ve been evaluating my time investment when it comes to advocacy. Sadly, with my PhD progressing and side projects in the works, making even just monthly videos is no longer sustainable. Behind the scenes, I spend my time answering questions and sharing parts of myself with people through DMs… all … More Advocacy Update !!!
Often, people ask me how I do it all—a PhD, advocacy, reading, writing, Chinese lessons, exercise, socializing, taking care of my pets. When I hear that, I think to myself, “That’s not really a lot of stuff.” There are people with way more on their plate than me. There are people with way less time … More How I Balance Life
Trigger Warning: Racist language used against Asians (used in a quote said to me) Invalidation comes in all forms. I experience it most often when my graphics and posts get shared and exposed to people who have never confronted complexities with adoption and race. “Won’t discredit her feelings, but I fear she’s had different experiences … More What’s Invalidation?
It’s December 30th, 2019 which means it’s time for a post full of self-reflection and cliches. I’ll start by acknowledging that I think this is the very first time I have posted a picture of myself here. What started as an anonymous blog has morphed into something I am proud to take ownership of… a … More Welcome to 2020
This applies to every day of the year, but since the holidays are approaching it seems like a perfect time to write about this. It’s so easy for people on the outside to say, “Oh you can suck it up for one day.” Frankly no, I cannot suck it up for one day. I hate … More Don’t Let Anyone Pick Your Battles For You