MY ADOPTION STORY Pt. 72 | Hitting Milestones as an Adoptee

Those big milestones are supposed to be really happy moments. For adoptees, they can be a bit more complicated. While I am also proud of my accomplishments and genuinely happy I have made it this far, there is always a part of me that wishes my first family could be there to witness these moments … More MY ADOPTION STORY Pt. 72 | Hitting Milestones as an Adoptee

MY ADOPTION STORY Pt. 71 | Sharing your story on social media

I’ve been sharing my story on social media for two and a half years now. It has been a lot of fun connecting with fellow advocates, but sharing on social media comes with its challenges too. All too often, people just tell you to cut everyone off that doesn’t accept your true self. What happens … More MY ADOPTION STORY Pt. 71 | Sharing your story on social media

Triggers are Valid

Why am I writing this and not just ignoring the haters? Because I know about all the adoptees feeling alone and watching advocates being gaslighted when sharing their experiences. When you relate to someone sharing, and you see them being attacked for it, that automatically puts some fear into your mind that it’ll happen to … More Triggers are Valid

MY ADOPTION STORY Pt. 70 | TRIGGERED by the term CRIB-MATE

Adoptees have a unique shared experience of grief, trauma, and pain that we endured in the first days, months, and years of our lives. That trauma and grief manifest throughout our life. We speak up, but are often met with invalidation and gaslighting. Crib-mate has been a term used to describe the shared adoptee experience. … More MY ADOPTION STORY Pt. 70 | TRIGGERED by the term CRIB-MATE

MY ADOPTION STORY Pt. 69 | Adoption in Mainstream Media

Mainstream media often has adoption plotlines that may or may not be very accurate. As an adoptee, I found The Handmaid’s Tale and Little Fires Everywhere to be the most prominent examples of adoption and adoption trauma. Both could also be triggering to view. I tried to think of more examples of adoption and adoption … More MY ADOPTION STORY Pt. 69 | Adoption in Mainstream Media

MY ADOPTION STORY Pt. 68 | My Experience with Learning Chinese

I was very hesitant to begin learning Chinese. As a Chinese, transracial adoptee, I knew that this would be something I eventually wanted to do. I’m glad that my parents gave me the choice of when to start. It has been an emotional process and not always the easiest, but I truly enjoy learning Chinese … More MY ADOPTION STORY Pt. 68 | My Experience with Learning Chinese

MY ADOPTION STORY BONUS EPISODE | Ask Me Anything | Q & A

Adoption Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adopteelilly/ It has been so fun connecting with all of you–especially fellow adoptees who have shared their experiences with me. I decided to have a Q & A that will allow me to answer as many of your questions as possible without draining me of my energy! Please comment your questions below or … More MY ADOPTION STORY BONUS EPISODE | Ask Me Anything | Q & A

MY ADOPTION STORY | NEW SUBS AND INFLUENCER UPDATE | CHAT TIME

Hi, everyone! You probably found me due to the latest news regarding an adoption influencer and re-homing her son. I wanted to give another update and also welcome you to the channel. I share A LOT about my adoption story and hope that adoptees may find validation and support through my videos. It’s an added … More MY ADOPTION STORY | NEW SUBS AND INFLUENCER UPDATE | CHAT TIME

MY ADOPTION STORY Pt. 67 | How to have difficult conversations with parents

Adoptees, if you are having a hard time talking to parents and loved ones about adoption, know that you aren’t alone! Talking about adoption can be an especially difficult conversation with your parents. Especially with transracial adoption, when you bring up race and adoption grief, the conversation can get awkward. In this video, I give … More MY ADOPTION STORY Pt. 67 | How to have difficult conversations with parents