Here’s the disclaimer to ensure you read until the end: NOT ALL PARENTS INVALIDATE ADOPTEES After spending a few years in various adoption groups online, a common theme in all is: adoptees being silenced and written off for being “disrespectful and argumentative”. When I see those comments, I scratch my head. Looking at the comment … More Is it Disrespect or just Disagreement?
Hi, everyone! You probably found me due to the latest news regarding an adoption influencer and re-homing her son. I wanted to give another update and also welcome you to the channel. I share A LOT about my adoption story and hope that adoptees may find validation and support through my videos. It’s an added … More MY ADOPTION STORY | NEW SUBS AND INFLUENCER UPDATE | CHAT TIME
Re: https://www.insider.com/myka-stauffer-youtube-instagram-backlash-for-rehoming-special-needs-son-2020-5?amp&fbclid=IwAR3mJuSen6FViWaB8-XZcPgju1p4lcTtZkrDL3r4-PmfUvP-V2CAxOcGbZM Warning: You can read the article, but please reconsider watching their videos. Every click gives their monetized videos more ad money. Almost 3 years ago when I began the adoptee advocacy journey on YouTube, this channel kept getting suggested to me. We even commented on one or two of each other’s videos when … More Profiting from family separation and trauma is WRONG.
It’s really important we stay connected and continue showing each other support even while practicing social distancing. Comments are open below for you to share when you are available and if there is a specific topic you are interested in. Check out the short video below for more information!
I wouldn’t be me if I didn’t say I was taking a break just to start furiously creating content. This time is a bit different, though. I’m not posting advocacy videos right now and if I do, they will be unlisted on YouTube and only accessible here on LFSMusings. I am trying out vlogging again. … More AdopteeLilly Vlogs??
There is a video going around showing that kids are not color blind (embedded below). They see race. Transracial adoptees have been aware of this. I didn’t need to be told I was different from my adoptive parents. I saw race. I just didn’t know what it was. I witnessed this firsthand last weekend. The … More Children See Color
If you’ve been following my advocacy and not just my book reviews, then you know I share a lot of myself when talking about adoption. I share both old and new experiences in an effort to make other transracial adoptees feel less alone. I carefully curate what I share. Often, I share everything and then … More My Social Media Boundaries
For the last few months, I’ve been evaluating my time investment when it comes to advocacy. Sadly, with my PhD progressing and side projects in the works, making even just monthly videos is no longer sustainable. Behind the scenes, I spend my time answering questions and sharing parts of myself with people through DMs… all … More Advocacy Update !!!
2/5 stars **Spoilers at end of review** Kristen is a straight-forward woman, except in one area. Fertility. A condition and medically-necessary procedure will make it impossible for her to have children biologically. As maid of honor for her best friend, she is about to spend a lot of time with the very attractive and absolutely … More The Friend Zone
Trigger Warning: Racist language used against Asians (used in a quote said to me) Invalidation comes in all forms. I experience it most often when my graphics and posts get shared and exposed to people who have never confronted complexities with adoption and race. “Won’t discredit her feelings, but I fear she’s had different experiences … More What’s Invalidation?