As a transracial adoptee, I had always felt in-between. Being torn between two families, cultures, races, and identities. It wasn’t until recently that I have started embracing feeling in-between and owning my identity as a Chinese, transracial adoptee. It has taken a lot of work, and it wasn’t always easy. In this video I discuss … More MY ADOPTION STORY Pt. 76 | FEELING IN-BETWEEN
Learning Chinese was something I attempted to do as a child. I didn’t appreciate Saturday school. Even though my parents said I would regret quitting later on, I still stopped. I do regret quitting. But I am also thankful I wasn’t forced into it because, knowing me, that would lead to me resenting my birth … More Little Gifts to Learn Chinese
You all submitted questions, and I am finally answering them! My videos are filmed and scheduled to publish weeks in advance. While I had the energy to discuss these topics then, I may be in a different place now. I don’t want any adoptee to feel like I am ignoring their connections. I just have … More MY ADOPTION STORY Pt. 75 | YOU ASKED, I ANSWERED! | Q & A
People always ask me about how it was having a Chinese, transracial adoptee as a sister. Parents wonder if they should adopt another child of the same race and/or ethnicity as their child. Having a Chinese adoptee as a sister was nice, but it didn’t magically solve all the issues with adoption and transracial adoption. … More MY ADOPTION STORY Pt. 73 | I have a Chinese, TRA sister
When an adoptee has the floor, do not derail the conversation to prove how woke you are. My name is Lillian飞岗 Schmaltz, and this is my story. October 15, 1994, I was born in Nanning, Guangxi. Approximately 3 days later, I was found at the local police station and brought to the Nanning Social Welfare … More Becoming AdopteeLilly
They called me “Gorilla”. They asked me if Donkey Kong was my father. They asked me if my forehead was so big because my brain got large from doing a lot of math. They asked me if I ate dog at home. The torments on the school bus were relentless. Finally, I refused to ride … More Are your terms of endearment actually racist?
I’m tired. I’m exhausted. I’ve considered giving up many times. It doesn’t matter how much I tone police myself. It doesn’t matter how many rainbows and unicorns I sprinkle on top of my blogs and videos. I always get the backlash about how I’m ungrateful, how I’m bitter, how I’m an “ugly chink”, and how … More Are you threatened by me?