ONE YEAR BIRTHDAY

It’s a very special day — This blog turns one year old today! One year ago, I was dealing with one of the worst weeks of my life. I didn’t feel ready to share many of my thoughts on a platform that was linked to my name, but I knew I needed to write. Thus, … More ONE YEAR BIRTHDAY

Triggers are Valid

Why am I writing this and not just ignoring the haters? Because I know about all the adoptees feeling alone and watching advocates being gaslighted when sharing their experiences. When you relate to someone sharing, and you see them being attacked for it, that automatically puts some fear into your mind that it’ll happen to … More Triggers are Valid

April 2020 Update

Well, I managed to get two months into 2020 with updates before I dropped off. I blame COVID-19 for that. So… we are now approaching the end of April, and I figured it would be time for a March/April/Quarantine update. My life has finally started to stabilize… so much so that I could film a … More April 2020 Update

Advocacy Update !!!

For the last few months, I’ve been evaluating my time investment when it comes to advocacy. Sadly, with my PhD progressing and side projects in the works, making even just monthly videos is no longer sustainable. Behind the scenes, I spend my time answering questions and sharing parts of myself with people through DMs… all … More Advocacy Update !!!

What’s Invalidation?

Trigger Warning: Racist language used against Asians (used in a quote said to me) Invalidation comes in all forms. I experience it most often when my graphics and posts get shared and exposed to people who have never confronted complexities with adoption and race. “Won’t discredit her feelings, but I fear she’s had different experiences … More What’s Invalidation?

Welcome to 2020

It’s December 30th, 2019 which means it’s time for a post full of self-reflection and cliches. I’ll start by acknowledging that I think this is the very first time I have posted a picture of myself here. What started as an anonymous blog has morphed into something I am proud to take ownership of… a … More Welcome to 2020