You all submitted questions, and I am finally answering them! My videos are filmed and scheduled to publish weeks in advance. While I had the energy to discuss these topics then, I may be in a different place now. I don’t want any adoptee to feel like I am ignoring their connections. I just have … More MY ADOPTION STORY Pt. 75 | YOU ASKED, I ANSWERED! | Q & A
When someone is struggling with their self-worth and finding their place in the world, they are often met with the response, “Just own who you are.” This can be a challenge to everyone, but especially to adoptees who had their identities taken and replaced with another. Transracial adoption adds another layer because I not only … More MY ADOPTION STORY PT. 74 | OWNING MY IDENTITY AS A TRA
People always ask me about how it was having a Chinese, transracial adoptee as a sister. Parents wonder if they should adopt another child of the same race and/or ethnicity as their child. Having a Chinese adoptee as a sister was nice, but it didn’t magically solve all the issues with adoption and transracial adoption. … More MY ADOPTION STORY Pt. 73 | I have a Chinese, TRA sister
Here’s the disclaimer to ensure you read until the end: NOT ALL PARENTS INVALIDATE ADOPTEES After spending a few years in various adoption groups online, a common theme in all is: adoptees being silenced and written off for being “disrespectful and argumentative”. When I see those comments, I scratch my head. Looking at the comment … More Is it Disrespect or just Disagreement?
I published this video ahead of schedule because it felt very right given the latest exploitation of a non-consenting transracial adoptee. If you follow adoption on social media, then you likely know of at least one adoption blogger that has shared a lot of private information about their family and adoption story. Adoption is a … More MY ADOPTION STORY Pt. 65 Irked by Adoption Bloggers
It’s really important we stay connected and continue showing each other support even while practicing social distancing. Comments are open below for you to share when you are available and if there is a specific topic you are interested in. Check out the short video below for more information!
If you’ve been following my advocacy and not just my book reviews, then you know I share a lot of myself when talking about adoption. I share both old and new experiences in an effort to make other transracial adoptees feel less alone. I carefully curate what I share. Often, I share everything and then … More My Social Media Boundaries
Happy Saturday, everyone! I am one lucky woman and have zero plans for the day. My only plans are to spend the day immersed in really good books and hopefully getting another chapter or two written in my latest novel. Minor Update: Yes, I am still loving Scrivener and will likely be purchasing it to … More Cafes and Culture
For the last few months, I’ve been evaluating my time investment when it comes to advocacy. Sadly, with my PhD progressing and side projects in the works, making even just monthly videos is no longer sustainable. Behind the scenes, I spend my time answering questions and sharing parts of myself with people through DMs… all … More Advocacy Update !!!
This applies to every day of the year, but since the holidays are approaching it seems like a perfect time to write about this. It’s so easy for people on the outside to say, “Oh you can suck it up for one day.” Frankly no, I cannot suck it up for one day. I hate … More Don’t Let Anyone Pick Your Battles For You